Monthly Archives: April 2012

Camp: One Solution to Parenting Challenges – Part 2

Parenting Challenge #2:  Helping Kids Become Independent Adults

Written by Audrey Monke for Gold Arrow Camp

Whether due to parenting trends (“helicoptering”) or being so connected to our kids (both in our close relationships and via our digital leashes), children are much less independent than we were at the same age.  Twenty years ago, we were babysitting infants at age 13.  Now, some of us hire babysitters for our 13 year olds!  Ironically, kids are experimenting with drugs, sex, and other high-risk behaviors younger than ever, possibly as a result of feeling so little independence and control in their own lives.  College freshman are struggling to adjust to being away from home, and many who start school away from their parents end up back at home.  Colleges have staff dedicated to orienting and communicating with parents, who are closely involved from the application process right through to job interviews post college.  Many college graduates move back home and slide right into a dependent lifestyle.  This “endless adolescence” just isn’t natural.  As a society, we are not doing a good job of launching our children into independent adult life.

My shy, quiet nine year old went to Gold Arrow Camp not knowing a soul.  Two weeks later, my daughter came home transformed.  She blossomed.  She made friends, learned a multitude of activities, felt safe, loved, confident, and happy, really happy.  As hard as it was on me, it was all worth it for her.  I know this is the single best thing I have ever done for her.

Cheryl Epstein
Long Beach, CA

Gold Arrow Camp parents understand the value of giving their children early, independent life experiences.  While knowing their children are well-supervised in a safe, supportive community, parents feel great about giving their child the opportunity to have a few weeks of independence from them.  Children as young as seven years old successfully complete two week camp stays and feel a great sense of pride and independence as a result.  Without having their cell phone to immediately contact their parents with every question and need, kids learn to rely on themselves and seek support from their counselors and cabin mates.

Categories: Alumni, Benefits of Camp, Communication, Community, Councelors, Day Hikes, Friendship, Fun, GAC, Health, Kids, Parents, Self-Esteem, Social Skills, Team Building, Tradition, Whadda Whadda Whadda | Tags: | 2 Comments

Nature Pees and Lanyard Fishing Poles

Written by: Audrey Monke for Gold Arrow Camp

Watching the campers construct fishing poles out of sticks and lanyard string, I had a revelation.  Kids rarely get a chance to play like this any more.   And, boy, are they good at it when they are given the opportunity!

For the first time in many years, I went on a GAC backpacking trip last summer. Led by Kamau and Blitz, our experienced and fun backpacking instructors, Cabin 0 and I enjoyed a fun-filled afternoon and overnight at Indian Falls before returning to camp the following morning.

During the hike, we sang songs, did riddles, and talked as we walked. We took a break to play “Camouflage” at Indian Pools. One camper stood in a designated spot while the rest of us hid in the surrounding area. We had to be able to see the “Spotter,” who carefully looked around at the surrounding rocks, trees, and bushes to try to spot us. We drank our water and ate our special camp trail mix – a homemade concoction of granola and LOTS of chocolate. Since it was warm, our chocolate melted, making a gooey, cookie-like substance that tasted much better out on a trail than it ever would at home.

When we reached our destination, we weren’t overly tired (it’s about a two and a half mile trip), but we were hot and ready to go in the water. In the pool below Indian Falls, the kids swam, played in the waterfall, and explored. Three hours passed while the girls entertained themselves playing in and around the water. When Kit Kat (the group counselor) brought down lanyard string, several of the girls made fishing poles. I was struck by how naturally creative kids are when left to their own devices.  And I was so thankful that our campers have the opportunity to just play, without adults providing all of the structure, all of the time.

I was also thankful that our children get to spend a night in an even more remote and natural setting than camp. Several of the girls were experienced GAC campers who were well versed in “nature peeing,” which is what is required when you’re out in the wilderness without toilets of any kind. One first-year camper proudly declared at campfire that she had done her first “nature pee.”  I thought about how many kids (and people) don’t want to spend a night in the wilderness, because they can’t bear the thought of being without the comforts of home. These girls absolutely loved being there and felt a tremendous sense of accomplishment at carrying their belongings and learning to live outdoors. I know they are developing a love of the outdoors and am so glad they had the opportunity to backpack at Gold Arrow Camp.

Our dinner was grilled cheese and pesto sandwiches (pesto optional) and tasted delicious. Everything tastes better cooked over a campfire! We ate through two loaves of bread before we moved on to s’mores and a cookie concoction that was slightly charred on the outside but gooey and delicious on the inside.

The girls shared their highs and lows of the day around the campfire before we brushed our teeth using our water bottles and climbed into our sleeping bags to enjoy the night sky. I woke up several times and never quite found a comfortable position on the hard dirt, but the stars provided a great backdrop to a restless night of sleep. The campers, however, all declared in the morning how well they slept. Ah, the miracle of childhood!

We returned to camp with dirty faces, hands, and clothes, but we felt fantastic and had an experience all of us will remember forever.

Richard Louv’s Last Child in the Woods: Saving our Children from Nature Deficit Disorder is a great book about the importance of getting our kids out in nature. 

Let’s get our kids unplugged and show them how amazing, beautiful, and fun it is to be outside!

Categories: Backpacking, Benefits of Camp, Campfire, Councelors, Day Hikes, Fishing, Friendship, Fun, GAC, Health, Kids, Packing tips, Safety, Self-Esteem, Social Skills, Songs, Team Building, Tradition | Tags: , , , , | 3 Comments

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